Mark Ehrenshaft, LCSW
is Qualified Supervisor with over 15 years experience. His areas of interest include depression, anxiety, relationship issues, family and parenting issues, men’s issues and substance abuse disorders, with a strong understanding of the recovery process. (954) 583-8831 Ext. 340
Positive Parenting Strategies
The birth of a new child is filled with joyous anticipation with hopes of a bright future and happy memories. However, challenges such as toilet training, the terrible two’s, and the trials of adolescence often leave parents at a loss for what to do in managing these difficult times. These are indeed trying times, but not unmanageable nor unrepairable.
The goal is to create an atmosphere of support, encouragement and trust, which will serve as the foundation for developing emotionally healthy children. Three key ingredients of this formula are time, attention and affection provided at every opportunity stressing responsibility and good choices. Children need to know that their parents are involved and care, and that any misstep will not be met with criticism and condemnation, but rather another opportunity to try again. It is also important that parents establish rules and limits governing their children’s behavior. Providing timely and appropriate consequences proportionate to the misbehavior rather than acting out of anger is a necessity. Although children may resist these limits, they provide structure, which children desire and will actively seek out if not present. Parents must develop a consistent action plan so that children have a sense of stability and safety from which to explore their world. They may also include their children in developing a collaborative plan of expectations, responsibilities and consequences. Lastly, as much as we may want to be both parent and friend, the role of parent is primary until children are mature enough to make the transition.
Key Points to Remember:
• Provide time, attention and affection daily
• Stress responsibility and good choices
• Establish rules and responsibilities governing behavior
• Provide timely and appropriate consequences proportionate to the misbehavior
• Be consistent and unifi ed in you action