” It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.”
Dale Carnegie, Writer
By: Idelle Newburge LMHC, NCC
Happiness means different things to different people. For some it is health; for some it is wealth; for some it is success; and, for some it is peace of mind. For others it is a combination of the aforementioned and still, for others it may seem elusive, fleeting or intangible! But whatever happiness may mean to you, just know that happiness is an active process and it is attainable by anyone who chooses it! Happiness does not just happen. Rather, you create your own happiness. Nothing and no one will make you happy unless you decide to be happy! Happiness comes from your own perceptions, reactions and actions. Basically, you therefore are empowered to reframe your negative thoughts to more positive thoughts, so as to change your mood to be happier whenever you choose. This of course may take some time and practice!
For things to be different, you must do things differently! Following is a list of some changes you can start to make as you embark on your journey to finding happiness:
Be mindful of life’s smallest pleasures!
Have an attitude of gratitude!
Live in the present moment-not in the past or the future!
Set realistic goals as you follow your dreams!
Be willing to adapt, be open and flexible!
Believe in your own value/Be your own best friend!
Remember no one is immune from life’s pain and suffering. Happiness is far less about the number or intensity of the bad or good events a person has experienced. Rather, happiness is a byproduct of, or the driving force behind, how we choose to deal with each situation we encounter.
Idelle Newburge LMHC, NCC is a therapist at the Center of Psychological Effectiveness in Plantation, FL.